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American Equity Investment Life Holding Co. – ‘10-Q’ for 9/30/23 – ‘EX-101.DEF’

On:  Wednesday, 11/8/23, at 4:57pm ET   ·   For:  9/30/23   ·   Accession #:  1039828-23-178   ·   File #:  1-31911

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11/08/23  American Equity Inv Life Hold… Co 10-Q        9/30/23   97:20M

Quarterly Report   —   Form 10-Q

Filing Table of Contents

Document/Exhibit                   Description                      Pages   Size 

 1: 10-Q        Quarterly Report                                    HTML   4.14M 
 2: EX-31.1     Certification -- §302 - SOA'02                      HTML     33K 
 3: EX-31.2     Certification -- §302 - SOA'02                      HTML     33K 
 4: EX-32.1     Certification -- §906 - SOA'02                      HTML     30K 
 5: EX-32.2     Certification -- §906 - SOA'02                      HTML     30K 
11: R1          Cover Page                                          HTML     88K 
12: R2          Consolidated Balance Sheets                         HTML    170K 
13: R3          Consolidated Balance Sheets (Parentheticals)        HTML     87K 
14: R4          Consolidated Statements of Operations               HTML    151K 
15: R5          Consolidated Statements of Operations               HTML     31K 
                (Parentheticals)                                                 
16: R6          Consolidated Statements of Comprehensive Income     HTML     75K 
17: R7          Consolidated Statements of Changes in               HTML    111K 
                Stockholders' Equity                                             
18: R8          Consolidated Statements of Cash Flows               HTML    189K 
19: R9          Significant Accounting Policies                     HTML     67K 
20: R10         Fair Values of Financial Instruments                HTML    315K 
21: R11         Investments                                         HTML    307K 
22: R12         Mortgage Loans on Real Estate                       HTML    446K 
23: R13         Variable Interest Entities                          HTML     55K 
24: R14         Derivative Instruments                              HTML    154K 
25: R15         Deferred Policy Acquisition Costs and Deferred      HTML    132K 
                Sales Inducements                                                
26: R16         Policyholder Liabilities                            HTML    365K 
27: R17         Notes and Loan Payable                              HTML     45K 
28: R18         Commitments and Contingencies                       HTML     34K 
29: R19         Earnings Per Common Share and Stockholders' Equity  HTML     59K 
30: R20         Pay vs Performance Disclosure                       HTML     42K 
31: R21         Significant Accounting Policies (Policies)          HTML    102K 
32: R22         Significant Accounting Policies (Tables)            HTML    263K 
33: R23         Fair Values of Financial Instruments (Tables)       HTML    399K 
34: R24         Investments (Tables)                                HTML    302K 
35: R25         Mortgage Loans on Real Estate (Tables)              HTML    441K 
36: R26         Variable Interest Entities (Tables)                 HTML     54K 
37: R27         Derivative Instruments (Tables)                     HTML    155K 
38: R28         Deferred Policy Acquisition Costs and Deferred      HTML     89K 
                Sales Inducements (Tables)                                       
39: R29         Policyholder Liabilities (Tables)                   HTML    382K 
40: R30         Notes and Loan Payable (Tables)                     HTML     43K 
41: R31         Earnings Per Common Share and Stockholders' Equity  HTML     52K 
                (Tables)                                                         
42: R32         Significant Accounting Policies (Narrative)         HTML     80K 
                (Details)                                                        
43: R33         Significant Accounting Policies (Schedule of        HTML    100K 
                Long-Duration Contracts) (Details)                               
44: R34         Fair Values of Financial Instruments (Narrative)    HTML    128K 
                (Details)                                                        
45: R35         Fair Values of Financial Instruments (Fair Values   HTML     87K 
                and Carrying Amounts of Financial Instruments)                   
                (Details)                                                        
46: R36         Fair Values of Financial Instruments (Assets and    HTML    161K 
                Liabilities Measured on a Recurring Basis by Fair                
                Value Hierarchy) (Details)                                       
47: R37         Fair Values of Financial Instruments (Assumptions   HTML     58K 
                Used in Estimating Fair Value) (Details)                         
48: R38         Fair Values of Financial Instruments                HTML     92K 
                (Reconciliation of Beginning and Ending Balances                 
                of Level 3 Assets and Liabilities) (Details)                     
49: R39         Investments (Narrative) (Details)                   HTML     41K 
50: R40         Investments (Schedule of Fixed Maturity             HTML     85K 
                Securities) (Details)                                            
51: R41         Investments (Fixed Maturity Securities by           HTML     84K 
                Contractual Maturity) (Details)                                  
52: R42         Investments (Net Unrealized Gains (Losses) on       HTML     37K 
                Investments Reported as a Separate Component of                  
                Stockholders' Equity) (Details)                                  
53: R43         Investments (Credit Quality of Fixed Maturity       HTML     59K 
                Security Portfolio by NAIC Designation) (Details)                
54: R44         Investments (Gross Unrealized Losses on             HTML     97K 
                Investments, By Category and Length of Time)                     
                (Details)                                                        
55: R45         Investments (Changes in Net Unrealized              HTML     41K 
                Gains/Losses on Investments) (Details)                           
56: R46         Investments (Net Realized Gains (Losses) on         HTML     64K 
                Investments) (Details)                                           
57: R47         Investments (Rollforward of Allowance for Credit    HTML     57K 
                Loss) (Details)                                                  
58: R48         Mortgage Loans on Real Estate (Narrative)           HTML     63K 
                (Details)                                                        
59: R49         Mortgage Loans on Real Estate (Summary of Mortgage  HTML     59K 
                Loan Portfolio) (Details)                                        
60: R50         Mortgage Loans on Real Estate (Commercial Mortgage  HTML     70K 
                Loan Portfolio Summarized by Geographic Region and               
                Property Type) (Details)                                         
61: R51         Mortgage Loans on Real Estate (Rollforward of       HTML     51K 
                Valuation Allowance on Mortgage Loan Portfolios)                 
                (Details)                                                        
62: R52         Mortgage Loans on Real Estate (Summary By Debt      HTML    135K 
                Service Coverage and Loan to Value Ratios)                       
                (Details)                                                        
63: R53         Mortgage Loans on Real Estate (Aging of Financing   HTML    109K 
                Receivables) (Details)                                           
64: R54         Variable Interest Entities (Narrative) (Details)    HTML     43K 
65: R55         Variable Interest Entities (Consolidated VIEs)      HTML     62K 
                (Details)                                                        
66: R56         Variable Interest Entities (Unconsolidated VIEs)    HTML     46K 
                (Details)                                                        
67: R57         Derivative Instruments (Narrative) (Details)        HTML     37K 
68: R58         Derivative Instruments (Notional and Fair Value of  HTML     66K 
                Derivative Instruments) (Details)                                
69: R59         Derivative Instruments (Carrying Amount and         HTML     41K 
                Cumulative Fair Value Hedging Adjustments)                       
                (Details)                                                        
70: R60         Derivative Instruments (Gains (Losses) Related to   HTML     44K 
                Derivatives and Hedged Items) (Details)                          
71: R61         Derivative Instruments (Change in Fair Value of     HTML     51K 
                Derivatives Not Designated as Hedging) (Details)                 
72: R62         Derivative Instruments (Derivative Call Options     HTML     81K 
                and Interest Rate Swaps by Counterparty) (Details)               
73: R63         Deferred Policy Acquisition Costs and Deferred      HTML     60K 
                Sales Inducements (Schedule of Deferred Policy                   
                Acquisition Costs) (Details)                                     
74: R64         Deferred Policy Acquisition Costs and Deferred      HTML     50K 
                Sales Inducements (Schedule of Deferred Sales                    
                Inducements) (Details)                                           
75: R65         Policyholder Liabilities (Schedule of Present       HTML     58K 
                Value of Expected Future Policy Benefits)                        
                (Details)                                                        
76: R66         Policyholder Liabilities (Summary of Liability For  HTML     62K 
                Future Policy Benefits Activity) (Details)                       
77: R67         Policyholder Liabilities (Schedule of Changes in    HTML     93K 
                the Liability for Market Risk Benefits) (Details)                
78: R68         Policyholder Liabilities (Reconciliation of Market  HTML     44K 
                Risk Benefits in an Asset Position and in a                      
                Liability Position) (Details)                                    
79: R69         Policyholder Liabilities (Schedule of Reinsured     HTML     65K 
                Market Risk Benefits) (Details)                                  
80: R70         Policyholder Liabilities (Schedule of               HTML     40K 
                Reconciliation of Reinsurance Market Risk Benefits               
                by Assets and Liabilities) (Details)                             
81: R71         Policyholder Liabilities (Significant Inputs and    HTML     65K 
                Assumptions) (Details)                                           
82: R72         Policyholder Liabilities (Changes in Policyholder   HTML     65K 
                Account Balances) (Details)                                      
83: R73         Policyholder Liabilities (Reconciliation of         HTML     47K 
                Policyholders? Account Balances to the                           
                Policyholders? Account Balances? Liability)                      
                (Details)                                                        
84: R74         Policyholder Liabilities (Account Balances by       HTML    179K 
                Guaranteed Minimum Interest Rates) (Details)                     
85: R75         Notes and Loan Payable (Schedule of Notes and Loan  HTML     53K 
                Payable) (Details)                                               
86: R76         Notes and Loan Payable (2027 Notes Narrative)       HTML     46K 
                (Details)                                                        
87: R77         Notes and Loan Payable (Term Loan Narrative)        HTML     49K 
                (Details)                                                        
88: R78         Commitments and Contingencies (Narrative)           HTML     41K 
                (Details)                                                        
89: R79         Earnings Per Common Share and Stockholders' Equity  HTML     68K 
                (Schedule of Earnings Per Common Share, Basic and                
                Diluted) (Details)                                               
90: R80         Earnings Per Common Share and Stockholders' Equity  HTML     61K 
                (Stockholders' Equity) (Details)                                 
91: R81         Earnings Per Common Share and Stockholders' Equity  HTML     44K 
                (Brookfield) (Details)                                           
92: R82         Earnings Per Common Share and Stockholders' Equity  HTML     55K 
                (Share Repurchase Program and Treasury Stock)                    
                (Details)                                                        
95: XML         IDEA XML File -- Filing Summary                      XML    192K 
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